Mistaken Love

Last night, I watched the season finale of "The Bachelor" and found myself on the edge of the couch processing all that was unfolding before my eyes of a love that went or that didn't go anywhere. Jason, the bachelor, fell in love with two women yet for seemingly different reasons. He chose the one that he thought was the perfect match for him and his family (single father of one) and let go of the one that seemed to be a better match (I thought). After the selection, the network of the program then revisits the "happy" couple and interviews them and the woman that wasn't chosen. For the first time on the show, the couple breaks up and then the man chooses the other woman. What?! So, can someone really fall in love with two women? How do you know when the one you are with is "the one" ? Is there wiggle room to grow more in love with someone even if you are not madly in love with them? If we are blessed with a mate, shouldn't we be deeply in love with them? Hmmm....